....Ah ... well, I don't think I'm a good example for you, I have it very easy overall. It is pretty fair as I don't give much of anything and I don't receive anything in turn as a result. There's always someone who is the outlier, though, even in a situation like mine. And... I can say that it hurts to see them supporting me and wanting something for me when I know I will never be able to be what they wish for me. But that person is also not capable of giving me what would make me happy or, as you put it, what could 'fix' me. And, I think what would do that would actually make them even sadder than I already make them. Which I don't want, either. It's not a good feeling to wrestle with, so if it's anything like you're feeling, I feel deeply for you and don't wish that on anyone.

It also might be different from what you're describing, but for that person and me... it does come off really unfair of me. Even though it's just one relationship it's enough to trouble me. You have many of these and it must be very hard.